mommy wars

THIS RIGHT HERE is why I read Rage Against the Minivan : "where is the mommy-war for the motherless child?"

A glimpse:

"These manufactured mommy wars are predictable because they tend to provoke strong reactions from mothers who feel judged, as well as mothers who want to feel superior for their choices. A litany of analysis, outrage, and defensiveness usually follows. Women tear each other down, while the entity responsible for initiating the battle reaps the benefit (whether it be a hot debate on a talk show or a political playing card)."

"When it comes to issues of motherhood, there is one issue I care about: some kids don’t have one. All of these petty wars about the choices of capable, loving mothers is just a lot of white noise to me, Quite honestly, I’m often astonished at the non-essential parenting issues I see moms getting their panties in a wad about. Particularly when there are so many kids in this world not being parented at all."

"This is the war I’ll be involved in: We, as a society, are not doing enough to protect at-risk and motherless children, both in our country and globally."

"I’ll fight for the moms who don’t have access to prenatal care, or for the moms who have to abandon their children because of poverty. I’ll be mad that such inequities exist, and I’ll support organizations that help change it."

Thank you, Kristen. 


  1. wasn't that post so good! i love that it took the focus off petty fighting and brought it to something much bigger we should all be concerned about.

  2. Amen! It's disheartening that mothers can become so judgmental about all of this stuff. This post really puts it in the right perspective!