I stole this marriage survey thingy from Dooce, because I think it’s pretty cool. Also, because it’s 4:30 on a Friday afternoon & I just started my mid-winter break.

What are your middle names?

My middle name is Clara; Doug’s middle name is Ian.

How long have you been together?

Married for a year and a half, “together” for almost 5 years.

How long did you know each other before you started dating?

About 3 months.

Who asked whom out?

Well, Doug told me that he had an intramural basketball game if I was “interested in going to watch.” Then he kept wanting to hang out, and one day he invited me to a baseball game, and on the way, he asked if I’d “officially” be his girlfriend.

How old are each of you?

Doug’s 26 & I’m 24.

Whose siblings do you see the most?


Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?

We haven’t had one particular situation that has been the “hardest” yet - it’s just been various communication issues and still adjusting to being married, I think.

Did you go to the same school?

Yep - good ole Spring Arbor University. Doug graduated in 2005, and I graduated in 2007.

Are you from the same home town?

No - I grew up in Kent, NY, and Doug grew up in Canton, MI.

Who is smarter?

Doug’s the left brain & I'm the right brain. For all practical purposes, Doug is smarter. Let's put it this way - the only time you should ever use me as your Phone-a-Friend over Doug is if the question is about Latin, literature or ice skating. Or ice cream.

Who is the most sensitive?

Me, doubtlessly.

Where do you eat out most as a couple?

We mostly eat at home, but our favorite restaurant to treat ourselves is Bravo.

Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?

When Doug came to visit while I was at Oxford, we flew to France for a weekend.

Who has the craziest exes?

Neither of us really dated anyone crazy, per se. I don’t really feel comfortable badmouthing exes, because we’ve all been there - I’m sure there are a few guys who might consider me a crazy ex. 

Who has the worst temper?

Hm, tough question! We both like to be right. Doug is probably more open with his anger, whereas I stuff things inside until one tiny thing pushes me over the edge.

Who does the cooking?


Who is the neat-freak?

Neither of us. We both make equal messes & then we both share in tidying up.

Who is more stubborn?

Oh my word. Let’s just put it this way - may God have mercy on our souls when our genes combine & we reproduce.

Who hogs the bed?

We have greatly improved in this area! When we were first married, I got kicked & elbowed constantly. I think I still have a tendency to hog blankets, but space is not usually an issue.

Who wakes up earlier?


Where was your first date?

Officially, a Tigers game.

Who is more jealous?


How long did it take to get serious?

Define serious. I think we pretty much just knew we were going to get married & that was that. We didn’t talk about it for a long time - he didn’t even tell me he loved me until we had been dating for almost a year & a half, but we pretty much knew.

Who eats more?


Who does the laundry?

Both of us, actually.

Who’s better with the computer?


Who drives when you are together?

Well, Doug drives, and I tell him how to drive.


  1. Cute cute survey! I'm stealing it :)

  2. Doesn't that left brain, right brain stuff work out well in marriage? Don't want to alarm you, but yes, the double dose of stubborn-ness is lethal...just the other day we got the classic, "Mom, I don't want Mia to look at me!"

  3. hmm...so the stubbornness runs in the bannister genes?!

  4. cute post, i may steal it. for phone-a-friend i was always going to use your mom or uncle stuey. now i'll add doug to my list. unless, of course they ask about ice cream, which is highly likely.